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Behavior Patterns that Prevent Transparency

As requested, I’m making some of my notes available from my message this past Sunday regarding behavior patterns that prevent transparency.  As I mentioned on Sunday, I’ve done ALL of these at some point in my life, and I’ve been some a lot more recent than I would like to admit.  I’m certain there are more that I’m yet to identify, but here are my top 12.

1.)     The Denier – This person chooses to remain ignorant of their failings hoping that others will do the same.  Their denial of their own reality causes them to live in complete fantasy about themselves.

2.)    The Justifier – This person gives some acknowledgement to their failings, but then immediately provides reason for why they did such. 

 3.)    The Blamer – Like the Justifier, they acknowledge their failings, but blame others as the cause or catalyst for such behavior.

4.)    The Concealor – This person is well aware of their faults, but does whatever they can to conceal and cover up their sin, hoping never to be discovered.

5.)    The Acknowledger – They give acknowledgment to their faults and struggles, and will even listen to your perspective, but that is as far as it ever goes.  No healing happens, and no progress is ever made.

6.)    The Offended – This person also acknowledges their struggles, but always finds some way of making you feel bad for pointing them out.  No help can be given, because your true heart is never received.

7.)    The Avoider – This person, well aware of their failings, will run from confrontation; doing anything they can to avoid talking about their problems.

8.)    The Talker – Honest with their feelings, this person will just keep talking about themselves, giving the appearance of transparency, but has no interest in your thoughts or feedback.

9.)    The Reciprocator – This person deals with people pointing out their faults by returning the favor, pointing out the faults of others, thus trying to state, “I’m not any worse than you are.”

10.)  The Fighter – To this person, all conflict is seen as provoking, and thus they give the other person what they perceive they want – a fight.

11.) The Confessor – This person is only transparent when they feel condemned…not being able to take it any longer, they run to the nearest person to confess their sins. 

12.)  The Distractor – This person uses circumstances and others to run interference for their lives, thus remaining under the radar of others scrutiny.

All of these behavioral tendencies are in complete opposition to transparency.  In conclusion, I believe that we would do well to acknowledge our own patterns that avoid transparency in our lives and to, as Paul urged the Corinthians, “open wide our hearts” to those who have our best interest in mind.  As Brennan Manning wrote, “A truly transparent person is nearly impossible to offend.”  How transparent are you?

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Vitalized Couples

Last night at Oasis Granger, we hosted 5 couples for our 2nd meeting of Vitalized Couples – a discussion oriented teaching group focusing on giving life to marriages. Last nights topic was, “How to Affair Proof your Marriage”. As the class started I was amazed by the transparency and honest by which couples shared. A topic like this would be so easy to just say the easy, safe answers, but these couples got raw. Here is a short list of some suggestions that couples had to help increase intimacy in relationships and to “affair proof” marriages.

-maintain honesty regardless the cost
-have daily sex
-if possible, spouses should not travel without each other alone
-set aside time each day for honest talk
-ask each other questions about needs, emotions, health of relationship, etc
-always tell spouse right away about any contact with a past boyfriend or girlfriend
-be understanding of spouses struggles, knowing that based on Christ’s definition of “adultery”, we are all guilty of breaking it. No one is faithful 100% of the time but God.
-help spouse discover and face their own heart; become more self aware.

That is just a few of the tips that our couples had for building safer, stronger marriages. I’m proud of everyone for sharing and I’m believing that this group and Oasis Granger are going to have the best marriages on the planet! Next Vitalized Couples is a dinner date to Olive Garden, Nov 13th (friday) at 7pm, across from UP mall.

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Staff Envy

As a church planter, I  spent several of our first years planting very jealous, but perhaps not about what one might think.  I think most would assume that pastors would be jealous about attendance or perhaps money or buildings or something, but not me.  I was jealous of other churches’ staffs.  There I was, with a home office or sitting at Bella Vita Coffee (God rest her soul 🙂 ) all by myself trying to do the job of 4-10 people.  Granted, I live for stuff like this, but there were plenty of days when it was really hardwork and it would have been nice to have a couple other people around to help.  As I looked at other churches and pastors, they had people.  You know “peope”.  They would say things like, “no problem, I’ll have one of my people take care of this” and  things like that.  I had no people; heck, I didn’t even have a copy machine to talk to.  In thinking back, it wasn’t so much that my lack of partners in crime caused me to be lonely, afterall, Krissy was very much around and always engaged in the ministry with me (and let’s be honest, she can do the work of 5 others), but I really wanted a team.  I wanted to strategize, plan, promote, engage, attack, foster, and one just can’t imagine how difficult that is to do over a decaf latte all by yourself.  I mean, I know, I’ve tried it. 

Now, 5 years later, I have a team, but not just a team, but a SUPER TEAM!  It’s like the Justice League, but for Jesus.  To be honest, it’s hard to recall sometimes how they all got here, in fact, for many of them it seems like they’ve been here the whole time.  But somewhere along the way, God started bringing some amazing people along side of us.

I first met John Eicher Jr. while enjoying a  Sunday lunch at Houlihans with my wife and parents.  I love talking with servers and John equally loved talking with his tables.  Sometime after the appetizer, I discovered that John was a bible college graduate and had just returned from a 2 year mission in Hondorus.  Next thing I knew, we were at the driving range at Bobicks, and later traveling to Kenya together to minister in the urban slums.  From day one, John just fit.  He still does.  He is a man of wisdom, humility, and tremendous giftings.

Many might not know this, but I first met Jaime Hilton, who oversees our  worship ministry, at a job interview.  Krissy and I, for a short season, owned a Sylvan Learning Center in Niles, MI, and Jaime applied for a marketing position there.  It’s better to hear her side of the story, but essentially, she came in for an interview, we talked about the church most of the time, and I didn’t give her the job at Sylvan, which I really felt horrible about.  And which is why I was mortified when she showed up one Sunday AM at Oasis.  (This was back when we were meeting  at the bar.)  I was so embarrassed.  I thought, “man, this girl is persistent….didn’t I tell you that you didn’t get the job.”  After that her first Sunday at Oasis, I didn’t see her for awhile (which I couldn’t blame her, I wouldn’t want to go to the church of someone who didn’t give me a job either), but later ran into her several times at Bella Vita Coffee (I was there trying to strategize all by myself).  We would always exchange small talk, and inevitably, just like her interview, I would always talk to her about Oasis.  That was years ago.  Now she is overseeing our worship ministry and is writing some of my favorite worship songs. 

Ryan Knox was one of my youth group students at Oasis Wauseon.  He was one of those freakish kids that knew God’s call on his life at a really young age.  His freshman year of high school, he came to Krissy and I and told us that he intended to join us in Granger and help with the church plant.  I was like, “oh, that’s nice” in much the same way you pat an 8 yr old boy on the back after he tells you “when I grow up I want to be an astronaut.”  I just didn’t know he really meant  it.  Now Ryan, and his lovely wife Brittany, oversee our youth ministy and Ryan also oversees much of our building maintenance and construction. 

Lindsey “Sey” Blackford and I first met several years ago through a mutual friend.  After a series of events, Lindsey wandered into Oasis (she was serving on a church staff that had essentially dissolved).  She quickly assimilated into the people and culture of Oasis and with her came her amazingly large family.  (Lindsey has 6 other siblings)  Since then, Lindsey has proven herself to be an invaluable part of the team.  She spends much of her time behind the scenes, but Lindsey is responsible for much of the administration of our staff, major church events, and she also is part of our children’s ministry leadership team.  Beyond that, her family is dynamite…they’ve really made their mark here at Oasis, especially on our worship team (Thanks Chris and Michael).  (Mark and Sandy, you both are champions and have raised a great family.) 

Justin Prawat, who landed here just shortly after Lindsey arrived, continues to impress me.  I got into a pinch awhile back and needed someone to lead worship.  Lindsey suggested this guy she knew, named Justin, aka Superbomb.  Little did I know, that at that time, Justin had never lead worship by himself on a Sunday before – anywhere.  But he must have done a decent job that first Sunday, because now he is on the stage almost every week.  Beyond that, Justin’s day job is to be my assistant, at which he really excels.  Justin puts  up with my crazy schedule and always seems to find something funny to say while doing it.  He has become a good friend.

Though she technically works for OasNet, it probably would only be right to also mention, Becky Gritton.  Becky and I have been friends since youth and was one of the first people to come alongside Krissy and I when planting the church.  She has a tremendous heart for missions and coordinates relationship with many of our international pastors.  Becky, Krissy and I are both thankful to have you here at Oasis and in our lives. 

Last but not least, my wife, Krissy.  I already mentioned that she is essentially a work force on her own, but she is so much more than that.  Other than Christ, I’ve confident that I wouldn’t have made it this far without her.  She has spent countless hours listening to me ramble, complain, dream, and always seems to find some way of challenging me and encouraging me in the process.  She stood by me when no one else would and continues to be my number one cheerleader and friend.  (I love you babe.)

So that’s my team and ironically, I don’t have lattees all that often any more.  Thankfully, now, God has surrounded me with a group of sincere, hardworking, creative, and wonderful people to help carry the vision and see it through to completion.  There is nothing I wouldn’t do for all of you.  My sincerest thanks.


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Oasis Mexico Mission Trip 2008 Photos

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Come get drenched in the Word – Sunday Nights at Oasis Granger.

girl-with-sunglasses.jpgStarting this Sunday night, January 27th, we are going to begin having a Sunday night meeting 1x per month.  I posted the schedule below.  It will be more of a classroom style teaching time that is topically driven.  If you see a topic that your interested in, feel free to come on out.  We’ll still be meeting at the McGann building and it’s from 6-8pm.  Depending on the turnout, we might even meet at the hightop tables in the cafe.  For me, it’s really sort of a feeler as to the interest in creating more of a mini bible college/discipleship training for people in the ministry.  If you are interested in pastoring or just going deeper in your understanding of the Word – this is FOR YOU.  Here is the schedule.

 January 27th – Understanding Baptisms

February 24th – Freedom from the Curse

March 30th – The Man Behind the Curtain

April 27th – Spirit-Led Evangelism

May TBA – Spirit, Soul, and Body

For more info, contact me the church at 574-850-0332.

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OasNet: 40 at $40

OasNet wants you!  We are in the process of finishing up the OasNet partnership materials, complete with the promotional video (  These packets should be out still in early 2008.  The first phase is to find 40 additional people to partner at $40 per month with the Oasis Network For Churches.  OasNet, as it’s called, exists to resource and equip local church planters and pastors with teaching, resources, and materials to help them carry out their call to reach the world with the GOOD NEWS of Jesus Christ.  Additionally, OasNet is a network of churches who believe that they can accomplish more together than separate.  Currently Oasis is already impacting pastors and churches in 3 continents and over 7 countries with the message of God’s love and grace. If you are currently part of an Oasis church or have been blessed by the ministries on this site or some of our affliates…I would ask you to consider partnering with us.  You can give any amount to OasNet, but we are specifically seeking out 40 people at $40 per month.  If you are willing to be one of the 40, please email me at or leave me a comment on this post.  Thanks in advance for your consideration and help!  GOOD NEWS to the WORLD, that’s our goal.

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Catching Up: All the things that I’ve forgotten to blog about…

Alright, here is the rundown of significant and insignificant news that I normally would have blogged about, but due to all that we’ve been through lately, and for whatever other reason, I didn’t….in no particular order.

1.) Oasis Staff/MTL’s/Trustee Christmas Party – We went to Papa Vino’s, had a great dinner, a hilarious White Elephant Gift Exchange (I got a Qur’an, and I’m not sure why Jordan had it in the first place :).  Then afterwards we all saw “I am Legend”.

2.)  “I am Legend” Movie Review – Real simple…great concept, wonderful acting, well done, but sucky ending.  I won’t ruin it, but I will say that it didn’t live up to the hype.  They did however bring in this great idea of the world being such a quiet place now that you could “hear God speaking”, but though the concept was introduced, they just left it out there and never developed it.  I did like how Will Smith’s character announced, “God didn’t do this!”  I thought of all the intrepretations of Job, etc, where God is wrongly blamed.  Also, I’m now scared of German Shephards after the film…

3.)  Wind storm last night….crazy!  I think my roof almost ripped off my house.  Snow is definitely better than hurricane winds.  You hear that God? 

4.)  Tons of new ministries to get involved with Oasis in 2008.  We’re looking for someone to assist with snow removal, newsletter updates, someone to handle emergency contacts (such as during a snow storm and we cancel a service, etc.), Children’s/Nursery workers, musicians of all kinds, website help, sound/video technical help, youth ministry,…like I said, A TON!  I could go on and on, but I’m afraid of running out of room on WordPress’ server!

5.)  My 10 year high school reunion is coming up this summer.  Just thought of that.  This is also my 10th year in ministry.  So, ’08 marks two milestones for me. 

6.)  I still don’t have a Christmas present for Krissy yet….it’s down to the wire.  (I’m pretty sure she doesn’t have mine yet either, since she just got released to drive Friday, and hasn’t done so yet.  Don’t worry, I’ll make it!)

7.)  I had a really cool dream last night about the church (Oasis Granger) and we were meeting in this larger building and there were just swarms of people – which was sweet!

8.)  Just yesterday, I had the opportunity to pray for a friend’s sister, named Robin, who has “terminal cancer” for healing.  It went really well.  Great time of teaching, prayer, etc.  She just seemed to have so much joy when we left.  Robin – the first report isn’t the last report!  I won’t stop believing for you to be healed!!! 

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Exciting News for 2008!

I just can’t wait till 2008!  As a church, we’ve got a ton of exciting things for us and I’m believing this is going to be our “breakout” year.  I’ve been thinking a lot lately about our vision and direction, specifically for 2008, but also how that fits our overall plan and I feel like we are coming up with some really exciting ideas and plans.  I can’t tell you what they are yet, but all I can say is that there is some really cool stuff on the table and you’re going to want to follow it.  Get ready for 08!

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Colorado Shootings at YWAM and New Life Church

I just read this morning that two shootings just recently took place in Colorado at both the YWAM base and New Life Church, (aka the mega church were Ted Haggard used to pastor.  Also the home to the Desperation Band).  The authorities are looking into whether these two incidents were connected.  5 people were killed in all.  Thankfully though, New Life’s Security Team responded quickly and prevented possibly dozens of additional deaths.  One of their team shot and killed the gunman at their facility.  Please be in prayer for the families and ministries affected by these shootings.  Below is a link to the full story.


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Great Service – Thanks Max!

Man, I love our church. We had a really enjoyable time today. It was Krissy’s first time back in church today, which I know was deeply encouraging to her and I think many others as well. Also, Max Smith, from Oasis Wauseon, did a great job teaching today…thanks Max, great message!

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